Answering Kids' Questions:
Tips for Parents of Curious Kids
by Christopher Essex
Do you ever wonder how even the most mundane of situations can inspire
a child to launch a string of "But WHY?" queries that leaves the nearest
adult either frantically searching for answers or suddenly very
irritable?
Experts, educators, and parents know how important it is to acknowledge
kids' inquiries--even if they do seem endless--but sometimes we could all
use some creative advice and a little extra patience. Next time you find
yourself alone with the insatiable curiosity of a child, follow these
suggestions from The Curious
Learner by Marjorie R. Simic, Melinda McClain, and Michael Shermis
and learn to enjoy where this curiosity leads you.
- In place of a verbal answer, suggest an activity that
might help your children discover what it is they want to know. When they
ask, "What makes the grass grow?" you can be ready with some seeds to plant.
Or you might let your child help with the flower, vegetable, or indoor herb
garden you've been meaning to work on so that he can observe a plant
from seed to something on the dinner table.
- To discover new things, encourage your children to use their own
senses, like hearing, listening, tasting, touching, and smelling. Instead of
telling your child how many legs a ladybug has, ask her to take a closer
look--"How many legs do you see on that ladybug?"
- Ask questions that lead children to answer some of their own
questions. Include questions like "I wonder where we could find out about
that?" or "How can we solve this problem?" You may be surprised by your
child's innovative solutions.
- Show children sources of information, such as encyclopedias and
magazines, that can help them learn more about the things that interest
them.
- Take family field trips to the zoo, science museum, aquarium, and
library regularly.
- Encourage your child to play with concrete objects such as blocks,
boxes, string, and stacking objects. Stimulate experimentation by
assembling a home science kit from everyday items. Substitute, for
example, empty pill bottles for vials, soda straws for eyedroppers, panty
hose for screening, and fishing line for wire.
By following these suggestions, parents can help kids engage with the world around them, which in turn aids in the
development of flexible thinking, problem solving skills, and motivation.
To parents frustrated by unending queries, the authors of The Curious
Learner give this advice: "Relax and enjoy answering questions with
your child. That means ask, explore, play with ideas. When things don't
work out, laugh and start the process over again. If you can laugh at the
trial-and-error play of being a scientist, so will your child. Then he will
tackle school science with the same friendly attitude."
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